Wooooohooooo! That describes how I am feeling right now.

It has been almost 2 years now since I separated from my ex-husband. I think I can truly say I have finally healed. At long last I feel alive again. Divorce was a painful experience, but not nearly as painful as… well let’s save that for another post, lol. All I can say is for the first time in my life I understand who I am and why God put me on this earth. I understand my assignment like never before. I made my assignment revolve around the false image of a fairytale marriage, an image that I created. I hurt people by misleading them to believe I lived in a fairytale only to send reality crashing down on them, and for that I apologize. God took my idol — my marriage and my family — away from me, because I gave it the glory rather than Him. The life of a Prophet is often times a harsh one. God has a special love for His prophets, and those He loves the most, He also chastens the most.  But His reproof has caused a great re-birthing in my life and I am once again ready to share the joy of love and intimacy, and the victories of overcoming strongholds and detrimental beliefs about sex and relationships with my followers.

If you are looking for Pastor Emmanuel you can get his contact info on the home page of our old website, http://www.heartcompassion.org. He is doing wonderful. We have a great relationship post-divorce and work closely together as friends raising our children. A lot of people were blessed during our marriage and the fruit of that season was good for the time it endured. Don’t be sad for us. We are finally in position to be re-positioned in the center of God’s perfect will for our lives and about that we are both excited.  My assignment outlived my marriage, and here I was thinking that they were one in the same!  Shame on me for trying to imprison The Anointing within the confines of my temporal, human, self-made circumstance! It busted out at the seams! Hallelujah!  So please, go to my new blog page and help me spread the word.

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In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body


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This is in response to a comment made on another blog. I thought it was pretty insightful so I wanted to share it.

“I have to say though, that comment about their being no “spirit of heterosexuality” and thus no “spirit of homosexuality” was amusing to me. I tend to agree with pastor Benny on this point. Nearly every sinful or demonic act is influenced by a particular type of demonic spirit. The names of demons are not particulary important, their function and their type is what matters. So you may not always see demons “named” in the Bible, but their fuction and type are outlined. That is why Jesus often cast demons out of people to heal them. Even in the case of Mary Magdalene, she was delivered from prostituion by the casting out of 7 demons. The Bible does not name the demons, but the function of those demons were made clear and thus such demons could be categorized or “typed” if you will as “spirits of prostitution” or “spirits of perversion”.

Furthermore, we do not need different spirits or type spirits of righteousness, such as a “spirit of heterosexuality” (if heterosexuality is being marked as a good thing here within the confines of a legal marriage)  to live right because there is only need of One Spirit to help us live righteously and that is The Holy Spirit. All righteous living is a result of the Spirit of God at work in our lives. In terms of heterosexual sin, that would be typed as  a “spirit of fornication”.  Although I definitely agree with you that all of these are derived from “the spirit of lust” which in actuality is merely “the spirit of satan”. So all sin is influenced by the spirit of satan as all righteousness is induced by “the spirit of God”!

I believe that ignorance concerning the workings of demonic spirits in our lives causes so many Christians to live a defeated life. Identifying a spirit does not give us excuses to sin, it gives ammunition to stop sinning! Typing a spirit is just specifying how the spirit of satan is working in your life specifically.”

Still Dr. Intimacy in spite of my current trial,

Prophetess Laneen A. Haniah

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Are you one of those people that almost never cries even though you often feel pain? Do you find it hard to cry even when you want to? Are you afraid to cry? Do you think crying makes you weak?  Are you scared that once you start crying over the pain of your life that you may never recover? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then this article is for you.

One of the issues that I often encounter when coaching people is the inability — or really the unwillingness — of many people to cry. Crying is an absolutely essential part of healing and deliverance. People often times don’t know how to use tears. Tears can be a healing balm or poisonous venom depending on how you apply them.

In all thy getting, get an understanding.” Isn’t that what the Bible says? Even in crying you must have an understanding of why you are crying and what to expect as a result of your tears. One of the main reasons people fear crying is that they are afraid the pain of their past will be brought back to the surface and overwhelm them. But tears brought before The Father in brokenness and humility will not produce pain but will instead release pain.

Let me just take a moment to explain to you the revelation that is hidden in human tears in the hope that you will go ahead and have that good cry that is long overdue (smile).

What is a tear?

aa transparent drop of fluid or hardened fluid matter (as resin)                                      
: undissolved material that has been changed into glass or a glassy substance by heat and fusion:   close crystallization by high firing to make nonporous

While most of us know the common definition of the word ‘tear’, did you know that a tear can also be a hard, nonporous substance?  A revelation really hit my spirit when I read these above definitions in Merriam Webster’s On-line Unabridged Dictionary. The revelation is this: tears that remain in your heart, constantly warmed by the heat of anger, become hardened residue that imprisons your heart in bitterness and pain.

You should be crying almost every day!

Ok, I know that sounds a little bit over the top, but please allow me to explain. I am certainly not suggesting that we all ought to be crying everyday for the rest of our lives here on earth. However as we continually go through seasons of transition, growth and/or healing – yes we should be crying often. Now let me back that up in scripture.

2He called a little child and had him stand among them.3And he said: “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. (Mat 18:2-3)

Is not every true believer striving to enter into the Kingdom of God? Not heaven, but His Kingdom come, His will be done, on earth as it is in heaven:  that life and life more abundantly that we were promised by Jesus as a result of His coming? Of course we are, and Jesus Himself said that would only happen if we become like little children. Not just children, but little children. Being a mother of seven, if there is anything I can say with certainty it is this: LITTLE CHILDREN CRY ALMOST EVERYDAY!!!

“Really though, why should I cry about stuff that happened decades ago?!!”

Well, I’m glad you asked. One of the first things I present to my clients during coaching sessions is the necessity of crying over their childhood. When helping a client work through issues of sexual perversion for instance, I explain to them, “You didn’t just wake up one day and decide to be perverted. Perversion was injected into your heart before you had a chance to decide.”

The problem is that often times when that injection takes place in our lives, whether it is an injection of perversion, anger, depression, rejection or otherwise – we are often too young to realize that we should be outraged at the state of our lives. At a time of our existence as children when it would be as easy as one, two, three to grieve; we fail to understand that we should grieve because we don’t know that what is being done to us is wrong. It is not until we come to an age of understanding many years into our adulthood that we suddenly realize, “Hey, I had a mucked up childhood! Momma shouldn’t have done that too me! Daddy should have been there!”

Once the realization and understanding comes it will be dealt with one, two or all of three ways:

                  1) Numbness and denial

                  2) Depression and sadness

                  3) Outrage and anger

No matter how you slice it up though, the only way to work through it at that point is to cry those dormant tears that are locked away in your inner being; the tears that have become the glassy residue that has hardened your heart and interfered with your intimacy with God and relationships with people.

Still don’t believe me? Well guess what another definition for tear is: “a drop of clear saline fluid.” Did you know that saline is basically the salty element found in some water? It is saline water that is used to flush out wounds. The first thing the nurse in the ER does is find out how you got cut. Next, the nurse flushes out your wound to access the damage and prepare it for an expeditious and hopefully uneventful healing process.  In other words, through your tears you will wash away all of the debris and foreign substances that were injected into you throughout your life. The release of your tears, your saline water, will flush out your heart and rinse away the dead things that are covering up your festering wounds.

And here is another jewel of revelation: If you put saline water in a container and allow it to evaporate, you will be left with salt. Salt is a preservative. That means that everything that has been hidden in your dormant tears for all these many years has been preserved for such a time as this! You haven’t lost anything at all. God has preserved your joy. He has preserved your restoration. He has preserved your destiny. All has been preserved in your tears.

So go ahead, cry your heart out and become the salt of the earth that Jesus said you would be as one of His disciples!!! Below I have listed some scriptures for you to write down, memorize and meditate on. Don’t expect these scriptures to yield a change in you right away. But as you keep meditating on these scriptures daily and going before the Lord, your heart will be softened and you will be able to cry. I am confident that in time, whether it is a few days or a few months, the streams will begin to flow from your eyes and you will start to heal like you never thought you could!

Not a single one of your tears is ever overlooked by God. He sees each one and understands the significant meaning behind every fallen tear.

You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.  Psalm 56:8

When you seek the Lord for deliverance you should seek him with tears. God resists the proud, but a broken spirit and a contrite heart will never be despised by God.

“In those days, at that time,” declares the LORD,
“the people of Israel and the people of Judah together
will go in tears to seek the LORD their God. Jer 50:4

Your tears create a noticeable fragrance that gets the Lord’s attention – they perfume the atmosphere with repentance and brokeness and God responds with His mercy and restoration.

 “And as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.” Luke 7:38
Jesus being no less than God Himself, had to come before the Father with tears when His deliverance was on the line. If He who was without sin had to cry, how much more must you and I cry?

During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Hebrews 5:7

 When people treat you badly, you should never get bitter about it, nor should you turn to other people to offer you false comfort by joining in on your anger. You should pour out your tears to God, the one who is able to heal you.

 My friends scorn me, but I pour out my tears to God. Job 16:2

Understand that all of these scriptures teach you that if you really want to be heard in times of distress, in bitterness of soul, in the weakness of your sinful flesh, in the injustices of life… you must come before the Lord with your tears. He is so ready to hear you if you will just come to him in humility.

12 Hear my prayer, O Lord! Listen to my cries for help! Don’t ignore my tears.   Psalm 39:12

After your crying is over with, there will always be a great deliverance that comes about and a peace that comes to your soul.

7 Be at rest once more, O my soul, for the LORD has been good to you. 8 For you, O LORD, have delivered my soul from death,   my eyes from tears, my feet from stumbling, 9 that I may walk before the LORD in the land of the living. Psalm 116:7-9 

Once all of the stress and pain that you have been carrying around for years is finally washed away through your tears — crying often allows God to release healing to your body!

“Go back and tell Hezekiah, the leader of my people, ‘This is what the LORD, the God of your father David, says: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I will heal you…  2 Kings 20:5

When it is all said and done, after your crying is over, you will harvest the Lord’s Joy!

Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy! Psalm 126:5


Press through the pain and let the tears fall! You cannot harvest joy if you do not sow your tears.  

In His Power,

Prophetess Laneen A. Haniah

Dr. Intimacy



Just keeping you up to date on the madness going on out there! Can you believe this? Yes believe it!

In His Power,
Dr. Intimacy


22-Year-Old’s Virginity Auction Hits $3.7 Million

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

A San Diego woman who is auctioning off her virginity said she has now received a bid of $3.7 million, according to a published report.
Natalie Dylan, a 22-year-old San Diego woman, said she got the idea for the auction after her sister was able to pay for her college education after prostituting herself for three weeks, according to the London Telegraph.

Dylan has a degree in women’s studies. She told the paper she hopes to pay for an advanced degree in family and marriage therapy with the proceeds from the auction.

She told the Telegraph that she doesn’t think she’s the only one who will be benefit from the auction.

“I think me and the person I do it with will both profit greatly from the deal,” Dylan told the paper.




Dear Dr. Intimacy,

I am struggling sexually in my mind. When I was about 5 or 6, my babysitters’ cousin began touching on my private area. So as to make me a little less uneasy while he did it, he’d turn on cartoons for me to watch. I had suppressed these memories along with many others until about 5 years ago. I am now married with children. I suddenly found myself remembering what was done to me as a child. I began looking at adult anime online. I became so addicted to it.

I struggled/am struggling to let that go and send it straight back to the depths of hell. On top of that, I recently started masturbating. I never found myself so attractive to the point where I’d actually touch myself, but here lately, I do it more than I should. I don’t want these lingering demons to transfer to my children. I want to stop. I pray against it all the time. I stay away from the computer except to check email or chat with friends and family. People who know me (or think they do) would never imagine me having these issues or struggles. God has been so gracious enough to keep me covered and my mess out of the light of day.

Also, to add insult and injury to devastation, I’ve been having dreams about a dear friend of mine. A friend who’s married and has his own kids. These dreams leave me wondering if I am married to the wrong person. I love my husband and children with all my heart and soul. It just seems that everything I’m not getting out of my marriage…like a listening ear, my friend has shown up and given me all over again. He’s unhappy in his situation, and cares a great deal about me. He never proposed adultery or anything, but did say he has loved me a long time. My mind just feels like this huge battleground. I think about my mess so much sometimes, I get a headache from it. I want to be truly happy and content with the life God gave me and leave my past where it is and move forward. I just find it so difficult to do so. Where should I begin?

Depressed & Confused

 Dear Depressed and Confused,

First let me say that I thank you for reaching out to me and I am so sorry for how you were violated as a child. Such wounds run deep, especially when you don’t know of the abuse until your adulthood, such as in your case. Even though the violation happened many years ago, for you it is still a fresh wound because you only became aware of it recently.

Your emotional response to cope by indulging in anime is an attempt on your part to normalize your experience. It is sometimes so much easier to try to justify someone violating you than it is to truly accept the violation and the subsequent anger and pain that you will feel as a result.

Now the addiction to anime, or an addiction to anything for that matter, would surely perpetuate the desire for masturbation since at the root of the activity, you are trying to gain control of your life. You are trying to control your emotions and for a brief moment masturbation makes you feel very much in control of yourself. It makes you feel strong and desirable, until… it is over with of course. Then you crash.

The attraction to your neighbor falls in line with wanting to be rescued from the chaos that your life seems to have become. It is so much easier to magnify his good qualities instead of face the challenge of working on issues in your home. You are just so stretched right now, mentally, emotionally, spiritually… you feel like you don’t have anything else to give. Toying with the idea of adultery gives you the pleasure of relief from it all for a short time. I am sharing these things with you because if you understand what you are doing, you have a better chance of overcoming the behavior. I understand Sis, I’ve been there.

  • 1) Cease all communication with your neighbor IMMEDIATELY. You play with fire and you will get burned. Falling into adultery is not going to help you or him!!!
  • 2) You really need to work through your feelings with a counselor. What happened to you was devastating and even though it happened a long time ago, you have every right to still be hurt over it. But, you need to get healed.
  • 3) You need to be very open with your husband about what you are struggling with. As much as you think he can handle, you need to tell him.
  • 4) You need to saturate your life with any and everything that will build you up spiritually – Christian TV, Reading or listening to the Bible, on-line Christian communities, prayer groups, etc… Building up your spirit man will empower you to overcome the weakness of your flesh.
  • 5) Lastly for now, getting some resource materials to help you understand what you are going through is a MUST! We perish for lack of knowledge. Empower yourself with understanding of how the devil is fighting you and how you can fight back successfully. I have some great resources on the product page and I am sure you can find some other resources on-line.
In the Power of Love,
Dr. Intimacy


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In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a holistic perspective – spirit, soul and body


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