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Are you one of those people that almost never cries even though you often feel pain? Do you find it hard to cry even when you want to? Are you afraid to cry? Do you think crying makes you weak?  Are you scared that once you start crying over the pain of your life that you may never recover? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then this article is for you.

One of the issues that I often encounter when coaching people is the inability — or really the unwillingness — of many people to cry. Crying is an absolutely essential part of healing and deliverance. People often times don’t know how to use tears. Tears can be a healing balm or poisonous venom depending on how you apply them.

In all thy getting, get an understanding.” Isn’t that what the Bible says? Even in crying you must have an understanding of why you are crying and what to expect as a result of your tears. One of the main reasons people fear crying is that they are afraid the pain of their past will be brought back to the surface and overwhelm them. But tears brought before The Father in brokenness and humility will not produce pain but will instead release pain.

Let me just take a moment to explain to you the revelation that is hidden in human tears in the hope that you will go ahead and have that good cry that is long overdue (smile).


What is a tear?

aa transparent drop of fluid or hardened fluid matter (as resin)                                      
b
: undissolved material that has been changed into glass or a glassy substance by heat and fusion:   close crystallization by high firing to make nonporous

While most of us know the common definition of the word ‘tear’, did you know that a tear can also be a hard, nonporous substance?  A revelation really hit my spirit when I read these above definitions in Merriam Webster’s On-line Unabridged Dictionary. The revelation is this: tears that remain in your heart, constantly warmed by the heat of anger, become hardened residue that imprisons your heart in bitterness and pain.

You should be crying almost every day!

Ok, I know that sounds a little bit over the top, but please allow me to explain. I am certainly not suggesting that we all ought to be crying everyday for the rest of our lives here on earth. However as we continually go through seasons of transition, growth and/or healing – yes we should be crying often. Now let me back that up in scripture.

2He called a little child and had him stand among them.3And he said: “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. (Mat 18:2-3)

Is not every true believer striving to enter into the Kingdom of God? Not heaven, but His Kingdom come, His will be done, on earth as it is in heaven:  that life and life more abundantly that we were promised by Jesus as a result of His coming? Of course we are, and Jesus Himself said that would only happen if we become like little children. Not just children, but little children. Being a mother of seven, if there is anything I can say with certainty it is this: LITTLE CHILDREN CRY ALMOST EVERYDAY!!!

“Really though, why should I cry about stuff that happened decades ago?!!”

Well, I’m glad you asked. One of the first things I present to my clients during coaching sessions is the necessity of crying over their childhood. When helping a client work through issues of sexual perversion for instance, I explain to them, “You didn’t just wake up one day and decide to be perverted. Perversion was injected into your heart before you had a chance to decide.”

The problem is that often times when that injection takes place in our lives, whether it is an injection of perversion, anger, depression, rejection or otherwise – we are often too young to realize that we should be outraged at the state of our lives. At a time of our existence as children when it would be as easy as one, two, three to grieve; we fail to understand that we should grieve because we don’t know that what is being done to us is wrong. It is not until we come to an age of understanding many years into our adulthood that we suddenly realize, “Hey, I had a mucked up childhood! Momma shouldn’t have done that too me! Daddy should have been there!”

Once the realization and understanding comes it will be dealt with one, two or all of three ways:

                  1) Numbness and denial

                  2) Depression and sadness

                  3) Outrage and anger

No matter how you slice it up though, the only way to work through it at that point is to cry those dormant tears that are locked away in your inner being; the tears that have become the glassy residue that has hardened your heart and interfered with your intimacy with God and relationships with people.

Still don’t believe me? Well guess what another definition for tear is: “a drop of clear saline fluid.” Did you know that saline is basically the salty element found in some water? It is saline water that is used to flush out wounds. The first thing the nurse in the ER does is find out how you got cut. Next, the nurse flushes out your wound to access the damage and prepare it for an expeditious and hopefully uneventful healing process.  In other words, through your tears you will wash away all of the debris and foreign substances that were injected into you throughout your life. The release of your tears, your saline water, will flush out your heart and rinse away the dead things that are covering up your festering wounds.

And here is another jewel of revelation: If you put saline water in a container and allow it to evaporate, you will be left with salt. Salt is a preservative. That means that everything that has been hidden in your dormant tears for all these many years has been preserved for such a time as this! You haven’t lost anything at all. God has preserved your joy. He has preserved your restoration. He has preserved your destiny. All has been preserved in your tears.

So go ahead, cry your heart out and become the salt of the earth that Jesus said you would be as one of His disciples!!! Below I have listed some scriptures for you to write down, memorize and meditate on. Don’t expect these scriptures to yield a change in you right away. But as you keep meditating on these scriptures daily and going before the Lord, your heart will be softened and you will be able to cry. I am confident that in time, whether it is a few days or a few months, the streams will begin to flow from your eyes and you will start to heal like you never thought you could!

Not a single one of your tears is ever overlooked by God. He sees each one and understands the significant meaning behind every fallen tear.

You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.  Psalm 56:8

When you seek the Lord for deliverance you should seek him with tears. God resists the proud, but a broken spirit and a contrite heart will never be despised by God.

“In those days, at that time,” declares the LORD,
“the people of Israel and the people of Judah together
will go in tears to seek the LORD their God. Jer 50:4


Your tears create a noticeable fragrance that gets the Lord’s attention – they perfume the atmosphere with repentance and brokeness and God responds with His mercy and restoration.

 “And as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.” Luke 7:38
 
 
Jesus being no less than God Himself, had to come before the Father with tears when His deliverance was on the line. If He who was without sin had to cry, how much more must you and I cry?

During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Hebrews 5:7

 When people treat you badly, you should never get bitter about it, nor should you turn to other people to offer you false comfort by joining in on your anger. You should pour out your tears to God, the one who is able to heal you.

 My friends scorn me, but I pour out my tears to God. Job 16:2

Understand that all of these scriptures teach you that if you really want to be heard in times of distress, in bitterness of soul, in the weakness of your sinful flesh, in the injustices of life… you must come before the Lord with your tears. He is so ready to hear you if you will just come to him in humility.

12 Hear my prayer, O Lord! Listen to my cries for help! Don’t ignore my tears.   Psalm 39:12

After your crying is over with, there will always be a great deliverance that comes about and a peace that comes to your soul.

7 Be at rest once more, O my soul, for the LORD has been good to you. 8 For you, O LORD, have delivered my soul from death,   my eyes from tears, my feet from stumbling, 9 that I may walk before the LORD in the land of the living. Psalm 116:7-9 

Once all of the stress and pain that you have been carrying around for years is finally washed away through your tears — crying often allows God to release healing to your body!

“Go back and tell Hezekiah, the leader of my people, ‘This is what the LORD, the God of your father David, says: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I will heal you…  2 Kings 20:5

When it is all said and done, after your crying is over, you will harvest the Lord’s Joy!

Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy! Psalm 126:5

 

Press through the pain and let the tears fall! You cannot harvest joy if you do not sow your tears.  

In His Power,

Prophetess Laneen A. Haniah

Dr. Intimacy

http://www.laneenhaniah.com

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In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a holistic perspective – spirit, soul and body

drintimacy@drintimacy.com

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(This is a letter that was e-mailed to me from an anonymous source. The author is a female Minister of The Gospel.) 

Hello:

I stumbled upon your website while doing some research on-line.  I purchased your book and am looking forward to being blessed and transformed by it.  I frequented some of your blogs and was very much blessed by your ministry. I would like to acquire counsel on a matter…

I have a friend who I do believe God placed in my life.  She loves Jesus and spiritually we can dialog about the word and spiritual matters and it is awesome because most often I am the one imparting so it is nice to have someone who can counter share with me and we can explore the word, and God and destiny together.

My friend is married and I am single.  In the past we have not governed our relationship properly and at one point were getting our sexual needs met from the relationship.  In my effort to reorder the relationship with her and God, I refused to participate in these acts further which my friend was not happy with and really became very controlling and manipulative…..very Jezebelic to say the least.  This caused me to have to cut off contact all together for a season.  While in the midst of pressuring me she became pregnant and her and her husband had a beautiful baby boy. 

All of this happened over a three year span.  It was only after becoming pregnant that my friend realized she was out of order and needed to get delivered.  However, this was very challenging to me as I felt betrayed.  Even though she is supposed to have sex with her husband and not me and that was something I was wanting her to do, I was upset at the fact of her trying to pursue me and even becoming vicious and upset with me to the point of just being hateful and vindictive….I can’t begin to describe some of the things she has said and done to me in an effort to get me; to punish me for making a decision not to sleep with her any further

Now that my friend has acquired a perspective on our relationship, we have strived to work on restoring our friendship in a Godly fashion.  She now however, appears to have the perspective of diving in head first; her reasoning is she understands we can’t go back and she is not that person anymore, however, I have lots of cautions and challenges and need to and desire to take the process of restoring our friendship very slowly.

One of my biggest challenges is that I have some heart issues against her regarding her baby boy.  When talking to me, she calls him the miracle child because he is the reason she turned from the error of her ways and saw what she was doing was wrong, but for me, he reminds me of how she treated me and in some ways it almost feels like she cheated on me even though naturally that isn’t realistic since she is married and we weren’t supposed to be doing anything in the first place; not to mention, I was opting out of the relationship, but that is how my heart feels and I have not been able to get past it no matter how much we talk about it.  I know my main issues are how she treated me at that time and then bam…I’m pregnant…it almost felt like she did it to retaliate against me and hurt me although she said that she was really trying to work on her marriage and do what I was encouraging her to do which was to work on her marriage and get her needs met through her husband…so with her actions she was doing this but with her words and deeds towards me she was doing otherwise….. 

My other challenge is that she wants me to be in her kids and husband’s life and I would very much love this but I want to do it at my own pace and don’t want to be pressured into it.  Never the less, every now and again, she will try to create opportunities for this to occur and will make comments about her children as if they are asking about me which is not true because the boy has only seen me twice and once was a week or so ago so the only way he would be inquiring about me is if she is putting inferences in his mind as he doesn’t know me at all to be doing that… 

Not to mention her husband has always been challenged by my presence.  From the initial point she and I became friends and were nothing but friends, he has never cared for me and it was/is obvious.   He says she changes when she is around me and I concur but she doesn’t readily admit this although it’s obvious to me and to him.  Sometimes, I sort of feel like her change is because I am everything she ever wanted in a mate, as she will make remarks at times when her and her husband are at odds that, “I need you in a male form,” or, “I wish he was like you.” Though she says this she will deny this and contend that her love for me as like Jonathan and David in the bible….

Recently I went to my friend’s state on other business and I stayed a few days.  My friend would come to visit me and I would visit her and for the most part things were decent and in order.  At times she would lay on me or grab my hand; this is the first time we have seen each other physically in over a year so I am still striving to figure out where the boundaries reside.  I had to admit I was very uncomfortable.  I sort of feel like my friend doesn’t have to have sex…that really she just truly desires intimacy and since she isn’t getting it in her marriage she is willing to have it at any level.  So to her laying on me or wanting me to hold her or hold her hand is sisterly…I had expressed to her that for me, I needed time to sort out what is an appropriate level of physical contact and for the present moment didn’t want to participate in any at all, but that didn’t stop her from pushing the boundaries I felt was needed.  Nothing happened further than just her laying on me or holding my hand or trying to be close to me in some form but to me it was a subtle representation of past actions….it wasn’t the full blown manipulation but just enough where she could justify it when I brought it up and yes I did bring it up…and she surely justified it. 

She as well sent me a CD of Dr. So and So  preaching about female friendships once I returned home.  It was a powerful message on friendship and how women need other sisters as friends to help them through the journeys of life.  One portion Dr. So and So  spoke about being a single woman and how her friends meet her intimacy needs.  She wasn’t talking about sexually but that when she is struggling as a single women they will be there to talk and walk her through until she is able to stand on her own again.  Well my friend used this to try to tell me it was okay if we held hands and laid on one another and the like….she used it from the angle of me being single and it was okay if I got my intimacy needs met through her since she was my “sisterfriend”….

I have never shared this with anyone as I am a leader in my church and I am the problem bearer for everyone else around me.  So really I have been working out my own salvation on this one…just me and God….

I would truly appreciate your insight…

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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I wrote an article this past week about a certain sect of supposedly “Christian” gay and lesbians who had some radically disturbing ideas about Jesus. They claim that through masturbation they were drawn into a deeper relationship with Him. You can read that article here: Weekend Word: Masturbating with Jesus?

I didn’t know the article was going to go in the direction that it did. Although it was not my intention, it turned out to be a debate on whether or not a homosexual can be a Christian. Again, this was not my initial intent in publishing the article. I was more focused on the masturbation issue. However, since it did go in that direction I’d like to open this issue up for further discussion.

 Are the terms “homosexual” and “Christian” in direct contradiction and opposition to one another? Or, is it possible to be both? What are your thoughts?

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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Someone sent me this article about a sect of Gay and Lesbian “Christians” from the Metropolitan Community Church and one of their leaders. I could not believe what I was reading:

 “My technique of meditative prayer was to envision Christ with me and experience him as a lover. Scott Haleman, Betty Dodson, and Joe Kramer argue that masturbation can be spiritual and can become a form of transcendental meditation. Masturbation can harness fantasies and sexual energy. When prolonged, it can stimulate and extend pleasure. When fantasies are focused into making love with Christ, the experience opens itself to a fundamental and profound consciousness of God. My visualizations of Jesus were certainly explicit, erotically envisioning various forms of making love to Jesus the Christ. I had sexual intercourse with Jesus. Sometimes he was the top, and sometimes he was the bottom. My relationship with Christ was mutual and deep. (Rev. Dr. Robert E. Goss, senior pastor of the MCC’s “Church of the Valley” in North Hollywood, CA. In his 2002 book, Queering Christ) ”

I am sorry to even have to repeat such filth, but I think it is important for us all to understand the depth of depravity that exists in the world today. I have heard unrepentive homosexuals say some far out things about Jesus and his supposed homosexual lifestyle with the apostles, but this by far surpasses anything I’ve heard before.

In my book, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook, I talk about the spirit of sexual fantasy and how it detaches one from reality. Notice how in the above article sexual fantasy is mentioned. I also talk about the spirit of lust and how once you are taken by lasciviousness (extreme lust), you often become deeply involved in witchcraft and spiritualism and are forever lost. Notice how in the above they talk about transcendental meditation, a common form of witchcraft.

I hate to keep pounding the pavement on the masturbation issue, but I believe it to be such a dangerous practice. Have you ever heard of a gateway drug? Marijuana is often referred to as a gateway drug because it has been scientifically proved that it is not physically addictive. It is however mentally and emotionally addictive. Furthermore, it has also been proved through studies that the use of marijuana often leads to heavier drug use, such as crack and heroin. Therefore it is called the gateway drug. I call masturbation “the gateway sex”. Like marijuana, there is nothing about masturbation that is physically addictive, but it extremely mentally and emotionally addictive. It is difficult to masturbate without it leading to other acts of sexual depravity, especially sexual fantasy. It is also a door opener for homosexuality, fornication, lust and all other forms of perversion.  The Bible says that we should give the devil no foothold. To all of you masturbation advocates, I would like to know why you would even want to toy around with this gateway sex called masturbation. Besides, how many practicing masturbators can honestly say that they do not fantasize while masturbating? If you think you can continue to masturbate and keep your sexual activity just at that level, you are fooling yourself!

I hope this will give you all something to think about concerning the dangers of masturbation because out of even those of us Christians that admit masturbation is a dangerous and unclean practice, very few of us really do what we have to do to get delivered from this activity. We say we want to stop, but do we really? Are you really willing to die to self, turn over your plate, turn off the TV and war with satan until you are free?

Have a lovely weekend. 🙂

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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I know I have not done any current events lately, but this was just too sick for me to not post it. A US prosecutor, you know the ones who supposedly catch bad guys, turned out to be a pretty bad guy himself. He got busted in a a sting to catch internet child predators while trying to arrange to have sex with a five year old girl!!!

 This is definitely the spirit of sexual fantasy. The spirit of sexual fantasy detaches you from reality to the point that you no longer realize that your actions are real. You see your actions only as a part of your fantasy and are detached from the reality of the consequences. If you are involved in sexual fantasy or pornography please reach out to me. I can help you. I don’t want you to end up like this man.

Read the article for yourself here:

http://www.miamiherald.com/775/story/242448.html

 

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