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Because this is the most highly researched topic on my blog, with the most comments; it now has its own dedicated page on my new blog. There is a lot more information and there will be plenty of other people sharing their experiences. Please use the above link to read and comment on this topic. If you posted a comment on this article previously, you will find your comment at the new location soon. Thanks so much for your interest.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a holistic perspective – spirit, soul and body

drintimacy@drintimacy.com

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This is another sad story of how sexual perversion can ruin someone’s life. A married city councilman committed suicide over the weekend. He apparently could not face the consequences of his actions. He was accused of molesting two teenage girls and sexually harrassing another woman.

I believe that it was the spirit of sexual fantasy that drove this man over the edge. This is a quote from my book, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook, about the spirit of pornography/sexual fantasy:

” Although the spirit of sexual fantasy can cause you to isolate yourself, it can also drive you to seek out fulfillment of your fantasies.

Whatever it is that you are fantasizing about, whether it is child molestation, rape, sex with animals, homosexuality, and etcetera – if you are drawn deep enough into the fantasy, you will become detached enough from reality to think that you can do it and still be in control. Sexual fantasy can get so bad that it can lead you into a state of psychosis where the real world ceases to exist for you. You will get to the point that you are committing all types of crazy and dangerous, possibly illegal acts without realizing the consequences or affects of those acts. You will be completely unaware of what is going on around you in the real world because the act itself is of no significance to you. It is the fantasy that you are playing out, that consists of the act, that is driving you and bringing you pleasure.

This is such a dangerous, dangerous spirit. If you are bound by this spirit, whether in the form of pornography or sexual fantasy, if you still have enough presence of mind to understand what I am saying, I beg you to put this book down right now and repent. Ask Jesus to save you from this spirit! You could be just days or even moments away from completely losing your grip on reality; destined to rot away in insanity like so many lost souls wandering the streets homeless and behaving strangely.”

Pornography and sexual fantasy is a very, very serious vice. Please don’t take it lightly. One of the side effects of this spirit is depression. Reality cannot live up to the fantasies and it causes “real life” to therefore be very disappointing and depressing. This spirit can take you into a dark place that you may never escape! If you need help in this area, let’s talk about it. 

If you want to read the article about the city councilman, follow this link:http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,296180,00.html

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A wonderful question was posed by a blogger named Khandy. She asked:

“What I’m wondering about is how the Bible could be our perfect guide for Christian sexuality. After all, the story of Lot and his daughters teaches that incest is acceptable – God did not punish Lot for the incest he commited with his two daughters. How does this fit into your philosophy?”

I talk about Lot’s daughters in my book (The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook). The story of Lot and his daughters can be found in the Book of Geneis, chapter 19.

Firstly, it’s important to note that the author of the Genesis was sure to point out twice, in verses 34 and 35 that Lot “perceived not” (or in other words he did not know) that intercourse was taking place with his daughters. Although this was incest, it was unintentional on the part of Lot. However, I don’t find Lot without fault for the condition that his daughters were in. Lot was readily willing to sacrifice them to the sexual dogs that tried to break his door down to have sex with the angels that he was housing. Also, Lot’s choice for a wife exposes his nature as well. His wife was destroyed with the rest of Sodom and Gomorrah. He did not choose a wife who was a woman of virtue and therefore, Lot’s daughters were raised in an environment of sexual perversion.

Having said that, it was not fitting that neither Lot or his daughters be directly punished for their heinous act of incest. Why? Simply for the reason that there was no written law at that time. How can one break a law that has not been established? For example, many years ago it was not illegal in our country the US for a grown man to have sex with a teenage girl. Although it may have been no less disturbing, the man was not “breaking the law” and therefore could not be punished by the law.

Nonetheless, punishment can come in many forms and I believe that Lot and his daughters were punished. Number one, if you notice in the story — they were living in a cave! They probably lived in fear for the rest of their lives knowing the people of the territories of the former cities of Sodom and Gomorrah hated them; blaming them for the destruction that had occurred. Secondly, you never hear of Lot again in any positive light after that occasion. You read of no restoration for neither him or his daughters. Thirdly and most importantly — the worst punishment of all — the seed that was birthed out of the incestous act that took place between them, was cursed. The sons that the daugthers gave birth to were the fathers of the Moabites and the Ammonites — two nations that the Israelites were at war with for many years. It is the father’s responsibility to bless his sons before he dies, but apparently Lot had no blessing to leave the sons of his daughters which he had fathered, otherwise their descendants would not have been cursed.

So, to answer your question more directly — the reason that I believe that the Bible is the guide for perfect sexuality is because it shows us, some by example and some by direct scripture, what is sexually good and that which is bad. In no way does the Bible present that the type of incest that took place between Lot and his daugthers is acceptable. Incest between brothers and sisters was an acceptably common practice during the time of the earth’s replinishing. This was for obvious reasons. However, once the population of the nation of Israel increased, the practice of incest was outlawed and has remained so ever since. (I’m not too sure about cousins).

Many of the revelations in the Bible are truths that are hidden from plain view. The full purpose and truth about sex is one of those things that is paritally hidden. Through prayer and study and revelation of the Holy Spirit we can learn anything that we need to know about sex!

I hope this answers your question Khandy. Please give me some feedback.

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Sexuality is a gift from God, meant for us to enjoy. However, done improperly it becomes a deadly prison. Take it from a former prostitute that is now happily married — there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. Learn how to live a sexual lifestyle that will truly satisfy without putting you on the path of destruction!

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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This page has been moved. All of the insightful and encouraging corresponding comments have also been moved as well. The new and improved blog page can be viewed at http://drintimacy.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/insights-from-dr-intimacy-exploring-the-naked-truth-about-sex-intimacy-and-relationships/

There is a lot more information on the new page and there will be plenty of other people sharing their experiences. Please use the above link to read and make comments. If you posted a comment on this article previously, you will find your comment at the new location soon. Thanks so much for your interest.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a holistic perspective – spirit, soul and body

drintimacy@drintimacy.com


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Anavah’s Family Portrait

Hi, my name is Laneen! This is a picture of me and my beautiful family – my wonderful husband Emmanuel, and our 6 children ages 13, 7, 6, 5, 3 and 1. Looking at us you definitely see my glory but you don’t know my story. I am a Minister of the Gospel now, but I didn’t always look like this, and I certainly did not always live like this.  I want to share with you a small portion of my struggles with sexual addictions and how I overcame.

When I was 2 years old I was regularly molested by a lesbian babysitter. Then shortly afterward, I was raped by one of my relatives. My childhood memories include watching pornography, seeing people have sex in front of me, laying in bed next to people who were masturbating and being instructed on how to do it to myself, playing with sex toys and being casually and haphazardly touched in my intimate places by male and female relatives just as a matter of habit.  I certainly became a product of my environment.

I started masturbating at the age of 5, developed a fond interest in pornography, took on a homosexual nature and attempted to have intercourse. If you can believe it or not, my greatest desire at the age of 5 was to see a penis! I was absolutely obsessed with seeing the male anatomy and tenaciously pursued my goal. Two of the greatest factors in fostering sexual addictions is rejection and insecurity. I suffered greatly from both. I can remember even at the age of 4 when I was in preschool that the other children did not like me. I was a misfit and an outcast before I even knew how to spell my own name. From the time I was 6 other girls were calling me “lesbo” and “dyke”.  

My Mom eventually cleaned up her life and got married but the demons of molestation followed us right into our new lives. Let’s just say that Mom always had a hankering for picking the wrong men and consequently sexual abuse continued on in my household behind closed doors.

I was crushed when I was told at the age of 10 that I would not be able to have children. Strong medications from a terminal illness had ravaged my reproductive system. Other than seeing male private parts (laugh), getting married and having a beautiful family one day was my life’s goal. I wanted to make the type of family that I didn’t have. How could that dream be taken away from me at such a young age? What purpose would my life hold when my heart’s desire had already been thwarted? 

At the age of fifteen I graduated from having sex with dolls, hairbrushes and carrots to intercourse with a real live man. I didn’t care about my life or health at that time. I was looking for love and acceptance in all the wrong places and I was determined to prove those doctors wrong. I wanted to have a baby! I grew up in a fairly small city and so it didn’t take long for me to gain a reputation as the ‘neighborhood ho’. I thought having sex would help me find love, but truly it only led me to more hatred and rejection.

I eventually became an alcoholic and drug addict making all of the worse decisions for my life.  I left home at the age of 16 so that I could fully embrace my new life of addictions and the gates of hell were opened against me. It’s too long of a story to tell but before it was all said and done I had become a drug addict and dealer, a gang member, had been incarcerated several times, had been in mental institutions several times, had guns put up to my head on 4 different occasions, had been raped on 3 different occasions, had been jumped, stabbed, became a practicer of witchcraft, became a stripper and a prostitute, had sex with over 200 people, had contracted venereal diseases on 8 separate occasions and consequently had made 3 very serious suicide attempts!!!  

All of these things occurred in my life because my sexual addictions caused me to make the wrong choices. It’s a miracle that I am alive today, healthy, whole and a testimony of victory! I know that you must now be wondering how I went from the woman you just read about to the one you see in the picture above – right? Well…that’s the question that I want to answer for you. However, it is too much for me to address on the website and that is why I have written a book called, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook.  In the book I will teach you everything that I learned about overcoming sexual perversions and addictions.

Isn’t it time that your story end in glory just like mine did? YES it is time – it is truly time for another level in your life!  

Until you can get your hands on the book though, feel free to blog me about anything you want to concerning life, sex, Christianity, addictions, my past -whatever…

You can visit my personal website too at http://www.victoriouslyfree.org/  

 

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah

Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

Looking for a previous article? Click Here

Would you  like to become a born again believer in Yeshua/Jesus Christ and receive eternal salvation? Click Here    

Want to share a testimony? Click Here

Need advice about something? Click Here     

If you are interested in being a moderator or author for this weblog please  e-mail me at laneenhaniah@victoriouslyfree.org     

(Please be advised that if you post a comment to any article on this weblog, you will automatically be added to the mailing list, receiving weekly updates about this site. If you do not want to be automatically added to this list all you have to do is add this phrase in parenthesis at the beginning of your first comment only: “I do not wish to be added to the mailing list”. You only have to add this phrase to the very first comment you post. It will protect you from receiving updates. Thank you for your cooperation. ) ) 

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