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I was on another blog tonight reading some of their articles. They really focus on the gay/lesbian agenda in the church. I am writing this article particulary in response to the seeming disdain that this other blog has for those Christian leaders that are unwilling to blatantly “speak out” against homosexuality as a stand alone sin — as opposed to just grouping it together with other henious acts of sin.

Homosexuality is defined in the dictionary as “having an attraction for the same sex”. An attraction is no more than a “feeling” and a “feeling” in and of itself is not a sin. For example the Bible says, “Be angry and sin not”. Anger is a feeling and in and of itself, the feeling of anger is not a sin. It is what you do with those angry feelings that determine whether or not you have sinned. Therefore homosexuality, according to the above definition, is not in and of itself a sin. Those destined for hell would have to sign a waiting list to get in if “feelings” alone caused us to be guilty of sin!

I am for lack of a better term, a Christian Sex Therapist. What I do is help people overcome sexual sins through Biblical advisement and personal exploration and healing.  The Bible is clear on the fact that fornication (sex outside of marriage) is a sin. That would of course include all gay/lesbian sexual activity because in God’s Word their is no allowance for homosexuals to marry. The Bible also makes specific mention of gay/lesbian sex in several places as it being a specific and abominable act of fornication.

You have to understand that the original translation of the Bible never used the term “homosexuality”. The Bible does speak specifically of fornication that takes place between those of the same sex — in other words the Bible clearly marks gay/lesbian sexual activity as sin — but it does so without ever condemning an individual for having homosexual “feelings”. No one is ever condemned by the Word of God for how they feel, they are only condemned for the sinful response to how they feel. You are not condemned for feeling stressed, but you are condemned if you get drunk in response to that feeling of stress. You get my drift I’m sure.

Ok, so I’m fessing up now – you get no argument from me about whether or not homosexuality is Biblically unrighteous. However,  the Bible actually has a lot more to say about heterosexual fornication than it does homosexual fornication!  One of the struggles that I have when counseling with homosexuals is convincing them that God loves them. This is because their mind relates God to the hateful and mean “so-called” Christians that try to make it seem as if homosexuality is the worse sin on the planet. Furthermore, my homosexual clients struggle with feelings of guilt for their very existence as human beings because they are “emotionally” attracted to the same sex. It is how one deals with those feelings of attraction for the same sex that determines whether or not they have sinned, but this is not the picture that the church paints for them.

What is my point in saying this? I am certainly not an advocate for homosexuality! But this is my struggle… If I can’t get people to accept their very existence as good purposeful; or get them to receive the Love of God; then there will be no success in counseling them. Thus I have to spend numerous sessions proving to homosexuals that God loves them and that He is not hateful and mean like the heckling Christians that have taunted them. It is often difficult to get beyond the guilt and condemnation that they experience simply because they are still having homosexual feelings of attraction.  This puts us almost in a catch 22 type situation because those homosexual feelings cannot be resolved outside of understanding and receiving the love of God and their purpose for existence; yet at the same time the love of God and purpose for existence cannot be embraced when one is weighed down with guilt and condemnation – uggghhh!

Therefore, in direct response to “Gay Christian Movement Watch” weblog I say this:

 I don’t think it is neccessarily wrong that some mainstream Christian leaders have not blatantly spoke out against homosexuality specifically. Sin is sin and I believe to focus on one particular sin can be dangerous. With so much focus on homosexuality, others that don’t struggle in this area may become pious and self-righteous, believing that they have arrived. I believe that the biggest sin in the church is PRIDE. That needs to be talked about more than anything else! Once pride, carnality and disobedience is delt with, and people are taught to have “relationship” and not just “religion”, there will be no sin – including gay/lesbian fornication. Right now, it may be more important for mainstream Christian leaders like TD Jakes and Creflo Dollar to do “damage control” on behalf of some of these other idiotic people out there that are              (mis)representing Christianity with hatred instead of with the Love and Grace of God. If we cannot get homosexuals to come to church then how can we minister to them, and if we cannot minister to them then how will they be saved and healed? Yet, why would they want to come when they feel as if they are the absolute worse thing that has happened to humanity according to our religious standards?

It is every Christian leaders responsibility to raise the Biblical standard of righteousness on this earth. The Bible talks about “sin” period. Of all the words written in the Bible, there are a mere handful that specifically address gay/lesbian sexuality. So why should we as leaders put it on a pedastal as the sin of all sins? We as Christians have to live HOLY and that is the bottom line. Not being a homosexual is included in living HOLY, but so is not gossiping, backbiting, being prideful, lying, ignoring the Sabbath, cheating, stealing, not praying, oppressing the poor, being disobedient, practicing witchcraft, not reading the Bible enough, regarding zodiac signs, watching rated “R” movies, using profanity, disrespecting our husbands and wives, not tithing, not submitting to authority, speeding on the highway, being manipulative, refusing to fast, not giving to the poor, murdering unborn babies, etc…

You see how long this list could get? You see how small the one act of homosexuality can look in this big long list? Why should we highlight that one thing? Why don’t we stop fooling ourselves and start promoting HOLINESS and righteous living and stop living carnal worldly lives? Once the church begins to live HOLY, we won’t have to make ourselves feel better by beating homosexuals over the head with condemnation! It is then that they will come and be cleansed and made whole…

In His Power,

Anavah

Christian Sexuality Senior Administrator

www.laneenhaniah.com

www.myspace.com/sexuallytransmitteddemons

 

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Sexuality is a gift from God, meant for us to enjoy. However, done improperly it becomes a deadly prison. Take it from a former prostitute that is now happily married — there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. Learn how to live a sexual lifestyle that will truly satisfy without putting you on the path of destruction!

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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This page has been moved. All of the insightful and encouraging corresponding comments have also been moved as well. The new and improved blog page can be viewed at http://drintimacy.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/insights-from-dr-intimacy-exploring-the-naked-truth-about-sex-intimacy-and-relationships/

There is a lot more information on the new page and there will be plenty of other people sharing their experiences. Please use the above link to read and make comments. If you posted a comment on this article previously, you will find your comment at the new location soon. Thanks so much for your interest.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a holistic perspective – spirit, soul and body

drintimacy@drintimacy.com


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Anavah’s Family Portrait

Hi, my name is Laneen! This is a picture of me and my beautiful family – my wonderful husband Emmanuel, and our 6 children ages 13, 7, 6, 5, 3 and 1. Looking at us you definitely see my glory but you don’t know my story. I am a Minister of the Gospel now, but I didn’t always look like this, and I certainly did not always live like this.  I want to share with you a small portion of my struggles with sexual addictions and how I overcame.

When I was 2 years old I was regularly molested by a lesbian babysitter. Then shortly afterward, I was raped by one of my relatives. My childhood memories include watching pornography, seeing people have sex in front of me, laying in bed next to people who were masturbating and being instructed on how to do it to myself, playing with sex toys and being casually and haphazardly touched in my intimate places by male and female relatives just as a matter of habit.  I certainly became a product of my environment.

I started masturbating at the age of 5, developed a fond interest in pornography, took on a homosexual nature and attempted to have intercourse. If you can believe it or not, my greatest desire at the age of 5 was to see a penis! I was absolutely obsessed with seeing the male anatomy and tenaciously pursued my goal. Two of the greatest factors in fostering sexual addictions is rejection and insecurity. I suffered greatly from both. I can remember even at the age of 4 when I was in preschool that the other children did not like me. I was a misfit and an outcast before I even knew how to spell my own name. From the time I was 6 other girls were calling me “lesbo” and “dyke”.  

My Mom eventually cleaned up her life and got married but the demons of molestation followed us right into our new lives. Let’s just say that Mom always had a hankering for picking the wrong men and consequently sexual abuse continued on in my household behind closed doors.

I was crushed when I was told at the age of 10 that I would not be able to have children. Strong medications from a terminal illness had ravaged my reproductive system. Other than seeing male private parts (laugh), getting married and having a beautiful family one day was my life’s goal. I wanted to make the type of family that I didn’t have. How could that dream be taken away from me at such a young age? What purpose would my life hold when my heart’s desire had already been thwarted? 

At the age of fifteen I graduated from having sex with dolls, hairbrushes and carrots to intercourse with a real live man. I didn’t care about my life or health at that time. I was looking for love and acceptance in all the wrong places and I was determined to prove those doctors wrong. I wanted to have a baby! I grew up in a fairly small city and so it didn’t take long for me to gain a reputation as the ‘neighborhood ho’. I thought having sex would help me find love, but truly it only led me to more hatred and rejection.

I eventually became an alcoholic and drug addict making all of the worse decisions for my life.  I left home at the age of 16 so that I could fully embrace my new life of addictions and the gates of hell were opened against me. It’s too long of a story to tell but before it was all said and done I had become a drug addict and dealer, a gang member, had been incarcerated several times, had been in mental institutions several times, had guns put up to my head on 4 different occasions, had been raped on 3 different occasions, had been jumped, stabbed, became a practicer of witchcraft, became a stripper and a prostitute, had sex with over 200 people, had contracted venereal diseases on 8 separate occasions and consequently had made 3 very serious suicide attempts!!!  

All of these things occurred in my life because my sexual addictions caused me to make the wrong choices. It’s a miracle that I am alive today, healthy, whole and a testimony of victory! I know that you must now be wondering how I went from the woman you just read about to the one you see in the picture above – right? Well…that’s the question that I want to answer for you. However, it is too much for me to address on the website and that is why I have written a book called, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook.  In the book I will teach you everything that I learned about overcoming sexual perversions and addictions.

Isn’t it time that your story end in glory just like mine did? YES it is time – it is truly time for another level in your life!  

Until you can get your hands on the book though, feel free to blog me about anything you want to concerning life, sex, Christianity, addictions, my past -whatever…

You can visit my personal website too at http://www.victoriouslyfree.org/  

 

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah

Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

Looking for a previous article? Click Here

Would you  like to become a born again believer in Yeshua/Jesus Christ and receive eternal salvation? Click Here    

Want to share a testimony? Click Here

Need advice about something? Click Here     

If you are interested in being a moderator or author for this weblog please  e-mail me at laneenhaniah@victoriouslyfree.org     

(Please be advised that if you post a comment to any article on this weblog, you will automatically be added to the mailing list, receiving weekly updates about this site. If you do not want to be automatically added to this list all you have to do is add this phrase in parenthesis at the beginning of your first comment only: “I do not wish to be added to the mailing list”. You only have to add this phrase to the very first comment you post. It will protect you from receiving updates. Thank you for your cooperation. ) ) 

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