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This is in response to a comment made on another blog. I thought it was pretty insightful so I wanted to share it.

“I have to say though, that comment about their being no “spirit of heterosexuality” and thus no “spirit of homosexuality” was amusing to me. I tend to agree with pastor Benny on this point. Nearly every sinful or demonic act is influenced by a particular type of demonic spirit. The names of demons are not particulary important, their function and their type is what matters. So you may not always see demons “named” in the Bible, but their fuction and type are outlined. That is why Jesus often cast demons out of people to heal them. Even in the case of Mary Magdalene, she was delivered from prostituion by the casting out of 7 demons. The Bible does not name the demons, but the function of those demons were made clear and thus such demons could be categorized or “typed” if you will as “spirits of prostitution” or “spirits of perversion”.

Furthermore, we do not need different spirits or type spirits of righteousness, such as a “spirit of heterosexuality” (if heterosexuality is being marked as a good thing here within the confines of a legal marriage)  to live right because there is only need of One Spirit to help us live righteously and that is The Holy Spirit. All righteous living is a result of the Spirit of God at work in our lives. In terms of heterosexual sin, that would be typed as  a “spirit of fornication”.  Although I definitely agree with you that all of these are derived from “the spirit of lust” which in actuality is merely “the spirit of satan”. So all sin is influenced by the spirit of satan as all righteousness is induced by “the spirit of God”!

I believe that ignorance concerning the workings of demonic spirits in our lives causes so many Christians to live a defeated life. Identifying a spirit does not give us excuses to sin, it gives ammunition to stop sinning! Typing a spirit is just specifying how the spirit of satan is working in your life specifically.”

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This article has been moved. All of the insightful and encouraging corresponding comments have also been, or will shortly be,  moved as well. The new and improved blog page can be viewed at http://drintimacy.wordpress.com/incubus-and-succubus-sex-demons-of-the-night/

Because this is the most highly researched topic on my blog, with the most comments; it now has its own dedicated page on my new blog. There is a lot more information and there will be plenty of other people sharing their experiences. Please use the above link to read and comment on this topic. If you posted a comment on this article previously, you will find your comment at the new location soon. Thanks so much for your interest.

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Dr. Intimacy

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I was on another blog tonight reading some of their articles. They really focus on the gay/lesbian agenda in the church. I am writing this article particulary in response to the seeming disdain that this other blog has for those Christian leaders that are unwilling to blatantly “speak out” against homosexuality as a stand alone sin — as opposed to just grouping it together with other henious acts of sin.

Homosexuality is defined in the dictionary as “having an attraction for the same sex”. An attraction is no more than a “feeling” and a “feeling” in and of itself is not a sin. For example the Bible says, “Be angry and sin not”. Anger is a feeling and in and of itself, the feeling of anger is not a sin. It is what you do with those angry feelings that determine whether or not you have sinned. Therefore homosexuality, according to the above definition, is not in and of itself a sin. Those destined for hell would have to sign a waiting list to get in if “feelings” alone caused us to be guilty of sin!

I am for lack of a better term, a Christian Sex Therapist. What I do is help people overcome sexual sins through Biblical advisement and personal exploration and healing.  The Bible is clear on the fact that fornication (sex outside of marriage) is a sin. That would of course include all gay/lesbian sexual activity because in God’s Word their is no allowance for homosexuals to marry. The Bible also makes specific mention of gay/lesbian sex in several places as it being a specific and abominable act of fornication.

You have to understand that the original translation of the Bible never used the term “homosexuality”. The Bible does speak specifically of fornication that takes place between those of the same sex — in other words the Bible clearly marks gay/lesbian sexual activity as sin — but it does so without ever condemning an individual for having homosexual “feelings”. No one is ever condemned by the Word of God for how they feel, they are only condemned for the sinful response to how they feel. You are not condemned for feeling stressed, but you are condemned if you get drunk in response to that feeling of stress. You get my drift I’m sure.

Ok, so I’m fessing up now – you get no argument from me about whether or not homosexuality is Biblically unrighteous. However,  the Bible actually has a lot more to say about heterosexual fornication than it does homosexual fornication!  One of the struggles that I have when counseling with homosexuals is convincing them that God loves them. This is because their mind relates God to the hateful and mean “so-called” Christians that try to make it seem as if homosexuality is the worse sin on the planet. Furthermore, my homosexual clients struggle with feelings of guilt for their very existence as human beings because they are “emotionally” attracted to the same sex. It is how one deals with those feelings of attraction for the same sex that determines whether or not they have sinned, but this is not the picture that the church paints for them.

What is my point in saying this? I am certainly not an advocate for homosexuality! But this is my struggle… If I can’t get people to accept their very existence as good purposeful; or get them to receive the Love of God; then there will be no success in counseling them. Thus I have to spend numerous sessions proving to homosexuals that God loves them and that He is not hateful and mean like the heckling Christians that have taunted them. It is often difficult to get beyond the guilt and condemnation that they experience simply because they are still having homosexual feelings of attraction.  This puts us almost in a catch 22 type situation because those homosexual feelings cannot be resolved outside of understanding and receiving the love of God and their purpose for existence; yet at the same time the love of God and purpose for existence cannot be embraced when one is weighed down with guilt and condemnation – uggghhh!

Therefore, in direct response to “Gay Christian Movement Watch” weblog I say this:

 I don’t think it is neccessarily wrong that some mainstream Christian leaders have not blatantly spoke out against homosexuality specifically. Sin is sin and I believe to focus on one particular sin can be dangerous. With so much focus on homosexuality, others that don’t struggle in this area may become pious and self-righteous, believing that they have arrived. I believe that the biggest sin in the church is PRIDE. That needs to be talked about more than anything else! Once pride, carnality and disobedience is delt with, and people are taught to have “relationship” and not just “religion”, there will be no sin – including gay/lesbian fornication. Right now, it may be more important for mainstream Christian leaders like TD Jakes and Creflo Dollar to do “damage control” on behalf of some of these other idiotic people out there that are              (mis)representing Christianity with hatred instead of with the Love and Grace of God. If we cannot get homosexuals to come to church then how can we minister to them, and if we cannot minister to them then how will they be saved and healed? Yet, why would they want to come when they feel as if they are the absolute worse thing that has happened to humanity according to our religious standards?

It is every Christian leaders responsibility to raise the Biblical standard of righteousness on this earth. The Bible talks about “sin” period. Of all the words written in the Bible, there are a mere handful that specifically address gay/lesbian sexuality. So why should we as leaders put it on a pedastal as the sin of all sins? We as Christians have to live HOLY and that is the bottom line. Not being a homosexual is included in living HOLY, but so is not gossiping, backbiting, being prideful, lying, ignoring the Sabbath, cheating, stealing, not praying, oppressing the poor, being disobedient, practicing witchcraft, not reading the Bible enough, regarding zodiac signs, watching rated “R” movies, using profanity, disrespecting our husbands and wives, not tithing, not submitting to authority, speeding on the highway, being manipulative, refusing to fast, not giving to the poor, murdering unborn babies, etc…

You see how long this list could get? You see how small the one act of homosexuality can look in this big long list? Why should we highlight that one thing? Why don’t we stop fooling ourselves and start promoting HOLINESS and righteous living and stop living carnal worldly lives? Once the church begins to live HOLY, we won’t have to make ourselves feel better by beating homosexuals over the head with condemnation! It is then that they will come and be cleansed and made whole…

In His Power,

Anavah

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(This is a letter that was e-mailed to me from an anonymous source. The author is a female Minister of The Gospel.) 

Hello:

I stumbled upon your website while doing some research on-line.  I purchased your book and am looking forward to being blessed and transformed by it.  I frequented some of your blogs and was very much blessed by your ministry. I would like to acquire counsel on a matter…

I have a friend who I do believe God placed in my life.  She loves Jesus and spiritually we can dialog about the word and spiritual matters and it is awesome because most often I am the one imparting so it is nice to have someone who can counter share with me and we can explore the word, and God and destiny together.

My friend is married and I am single.  In the past we have not governed our relationship properly and at one point were getting our sexual needs met from the relationship.  In my effort to reorder the relationship with her and God, I refused to participate in these acts further which my friend was not happy with and really became very controlling and manipulative…..very Jezebelic to say the least.  This caused me to have to cut off contact all together for a season.  While in the midst of pressuring me she became pregnant and her and her husband had a beautiful baby boy. 

All of this happened over a three year span.  It was only after becoming pregnant that my friend realized she was out of order and needed to get delivered.  However, this was very challenging to me as I felt betrayed.  Even though she is supposed to have sex with her husband and not me and that was something I was wanting her to do, I was upset at the fact of her trying to pursue me and even becoming vicious and upset with me to the point of just being hateful and vindictive….I can’t begin to describe some of the things she has said and done to me in an effort to get me; to punish me for making a decision not to sleep with her any further

Now that my friend has acquired a perspective on our relationship, we have strived to work on restoring our friendship in a Godly fashion.  She now however, appears to have the perspective of diving in head first; her reasoning is she understands we can’t go back and she is not that person anymore, however, I have lots of cautions and challenges and need to and desire to take the process of restoring our friendship very slowly.

One of my biggest challenges is that I have some heart issues against her regarding her baby boy.  When talking to me, she calls him the miracle child because he is the reason she turned from the error of her ways and saw what she was doing was wrong, but for me, he reminds me of how she treated me and in some ways it almost feels like she cheated on me even though naturally that isn’t realistic since she is married and we weren’t supposed to be doing anything in the first place; not to mention, I was opting out of the relationship, but that is how my heart feels and I have not been able to get past it no matter how much we talk about it.  I know my main issues are how she treated me at that time and then bam…I’m pregnant…it almost felt like she did it to retaliate against me and hurt me although she said that she was really trying to work on her marriage and do what I was encouraging her to do which was to work on her marriage and get her needs met through her husband…so with her actions she was doing this but with her words and deeds towards me she was doing otherwise….. 

My other challenge is that she wants me to be in her kids and husband’s life and I would very much love this but I want to do it at my own pace and don’t want to be pressured into it.  Never the less, every now and again, she will try to create opportunities for this to occur and will make comments about her children as if they are asking about me which is not true because the boy has only seen me twice and once was a week or so ago so the only way he would be inquiring about me is if she is putting inferences in his mind as he doesn’t know me at all to be doing that… 

Not to mention her husband has always been challenged by my presence.  From the initial point she and I became friends and were nothing but friends, he has never cared for me and it was/is obvious.   He says she changes when she is around me and I concur but she doesn’t readily admit this although it’s obvious to me and to him.  Sometimes, I sort of feel like her change is because I am everything she ever wanted in a mate, as she will make remarks at times when her and her husband are at odds that, “I need you in a male form,” or, “I wish he was like you.” Though she says this she will deny this and contend that her love for me as like Jonathan and David in the bible….

Recently I went to my friend’s state on other business and I stayed a few days.  My friend would come to visit me and I would visit her and for the most part things were decent and in order.  At times she would lay on me or grab my hand; this is the first time we have seen each other physically in over a year so I am still striving to figure out where the boundaries reside.  I had to admit I was very uncomfortable.  I sort of feel like my friend doesn’t have to have sex…that really she just truly desires intimacy and since she isn’t getting it in her marriage she is willing to have it at any level.  So to her laying on me or wanting me to hold her or hold her hand is sisterly…I had expressed to her that for me, I needed time to sort out what is an appropriate level of physical contact and for the present moment didn’t want to participate in any at all, but that didn’t stop her from pushing the boundaries I felt was needed.  Nothing happened further than just her laying on me or holding my hand or trying to be close to me in some form but to me it was a subtle representation of past actions….it wasn’t the full blown manipulation but just enough where she could justify it when I brought it up and yes I did bring it up…and she surely justified it. 

She as well sent me a CD of Dr. So and So  preaching about female friendships once I returned home.  It was a powerful message on friendship and how women need other sisters as friends to help them through the journeys of life.  One portion Dr. So and So  spoke about being a single woman and how her friends meet her intimacy needs.  She wasn’t talking about sexually but that when she is struggling as a single women they will be there to talk and walk her through until she is able to stand on her own again.  Well my friend used this to try to tell me it was okay if we held hands and laid on one another and the like….she used it from the angle of me being single and it was okay if I got my intimacy needs met through her since she was my “sisterfriend”….

I have never shared this with anyone as I am a leader in my church and I am the problem bearer for everyone else around me.  So really I have been working out my own salvation on this one…just me and God….

I would truly appreciate your insight…

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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I wrote an article this past week about a certain sect of supposedly “Christian” gay and lesbians who had some radically disturbing ideas about Jesus. They claim that through masturbation they were drawn into a deeper relationship with Him. You can read that article here: Weekend Word: Masturbating with Jesus?

I didn’t know the article was going to go in the direction that it did. Although it was not my intention, it turned out to be a debate on whether or not a homosexual can be a Christian. Again, this was not my initial intent in publishing the article. I was more focused on the masturbation issue. However, since it did go in that direction I’d like to open this issue up for further discussion.

 Are the terms “homosexual” and “Christian” in direct contradiction and opposition to one another? Or, is it possible to be both? What are your thoughts?

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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Someone sent me this article about a sect of Gay and Lesbian “Christians” from the Metropolitan Community Church and one of their leaders. I could not believe what I was reading:

 “My technique of meditative prayer was to envision Christ with me and experience him as a lover. Scott Haleman, Betty Dodson, and Joe Kramer argue that masturbation can be spiritual and can become a form of transcendental meditation. Masturbation can harness fantasies and sexual energy. When prolonged, it can stimulate and extend pleasure. When fantasies are focused into making love with Christ, the experience opens itself to a fundamental and profound consciousness of God. My visualizations of Jesus were certainly explicit, erotically envisioning various forms of making love to Jesus the Christ. I had sexual intercourse with Jesus. Sometimes he was the top, and sometimes he was the bottom. My relationship with Christ was mutual and deep. (Rev. Dr. Robert E. Goss, senior pastor of the MCC’s “Church of the Valley” in North Hollywood, CA. In his 2002 book, Queering Christ) ”

I am sorry to even have to repeat such filth, but I think it is important for us all to understand the depth of depravity that exists in the world today. I have heard unrepentive homosexuals say some far out things about Jesus and his supposed homosexual lifestyle with the apostles, but this by far surpasses anything I’ve heard before.

In my book, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook, I talk about the spirit of sexual fantasy and how it detaches one from reality. Notice how in the above article sexual fantasy is mentioned. I also talk about the spirit of lust and how once you are taken by lasciviousness (extreme lust), you often become deeply involved in witchcraft and spiritualism and are forever lost. Notice how in the above they talk about transcendental meditation, a common form of witchcraft.

I hate to keep pounding the pavement on the masturbation issue, but I believe it to be such a dangerous practice. Have you ever heard of a gateway drug? Marijuana is often referred to as a gateway drug because it has been scientifically proved that it is not physically addictive. It is however mentally and emotionally addictive. Furthermore, it has also been proved through studies that the use of marijuana often leads to heavier drug use, such as crack and heroin. Therefore it is called the gateway drug. I call masturbation “the gateway sex”. Like marijuana, there is nothing about masturbation that is physically addictive, but it extremely mentally and emotionally addictive. It is difficult to masturbate without it leading to other acts of sexual depravity, especially sexual fantasy. It is also a door opener for homosexuality, fornication, lust and all other forms of perversion.  The Bible says that we should give the devil no foothold. To all of you masturbation advocates, I would like to know why you would even want to toy around with this gateway sex called masturbation. Besides, how many practicing masturbators can honestly say that they do not fantasize while masturbating? If you think you can continue to masturbate and keep your sexual activity just at that level, you are fooling yourself!

I hope this will give you all something to think about concerning the dangers of masturbation because out of even those of us Christians that admit masturbation is a dangerous and unclean practice, very few of us really do what we have to do to get delivered from this activity. We say we want to stop, but do we really? Are you really willing to die to self, turn over your plate, turn off the TV and war with satan until you are free?

Have a lovely weekend. 🙂

In His Power,
Minister Laneen A. Haniah
Anavah – the blog owner and author of
The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook
www.victoriouslyfree.org 

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Did you that masturbation can ruin your marital sex life? Well it certainly can!

Masturbation desensitizes you the touch of others and causes you to be primarily responsive to your own touch. That means that it will be difficult for your spouse to please you unless he or she knows how to touch you exactly the way that you touch yourself which is impossible, especially during intercourse!

Furthermore, because of the selfishness brought about by the spirit of masturbation, masturbating causes you to be a very self-serving sex partner. That means that when you do have sex with your spouse, you do it to please yourself and not him or her. It therefore prevents the two of you from connecting on a spiritual level and causes your sex to be merely a lustful encounter as if you were not in holy matrimony but instead, simply fornicators. It is also an act of adultery because you are having sex with someone other than your spouse. Hey cheating is cheating no matter who it is done with!

I am saying this part especially to the ladies. Statistics show that only 30% of women reach orgasm by intercourse alone. This is probably in part because it is easier for female genetalia to become over-stimulated than male genetalia and is therefore easier for a woman to become desensitized by masturbation. Therefore, if you want your husband to be able to bring you to climax, learn how to keep your hands off of yourself!!! Give a brotha a chance!

One more little tidbit on masturbation. Masturbation creates a serious opening for the spirit of homosexuality. This is not rocket science though: if you masturbate, aren’t you engaging in same-sex, sex? Duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You better get delivered. You can read all about it in my book, The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook. 😀

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