The comments being posted in the post “Juanita Bynum, Paula White… What’s happening here?” have gotten very interesting. The question that seems to be on the table is whether or not a divorce is the absolute necessary end after adultery occurs in a marriage.
It has been presented that sometimes divorce is orchestrated by God through adultery. Not meaning that God causes adultery, but instead that He allows it without intervention. If this is the case, then should the couple not fight to save the marriage after adultery but instead take the out that has been given to them and divorce?
Do we sometimes just have to admit that we’ve made a mistake and have married the wrong person or is that just an excuse? Is there any such thing as marrying the wrong person? Is Adultery God’s solution for a stiff-necked and disobedient person to get out of a bad situation that they have created for themselves?
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Know this, for as long as we are wrapped in flesh, we will battle flesh. No one is exempt!. It’s a matter of how you choose to handle it. The Bible gives us examples of individuals who battled within their flesh. Some of them were able to overcome, whereas others failed. There are examples throughout. The majority of those who failed a trial, still went on to do great things. They picked up and went on. To include those found in adultery, such as David. To include a murderer such as Moses and the list goes on. Be careful to point out another’s sin, for yours too shall surely find you out. Let’s be prayerful because it truly is praying time.
I will add that divorce is permissable after adultery, but not required. God hates divorce and what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. Key is, what God has joined.
Not everyone who is divorced wanted the divorce. Generally speaking, in most cases of divorce one of the people is a victim. It is wrong to treat all divorced people the same. My wife had multiple affairs but I chose not to divorce her. Eventually she left anyway and filed for divorce. All this time she claimed to be a Christian. I never agreed to the divorce but it was granted anyway.
R,
Can you please help us understand why you wanted to stay in the marriage after your wife cheated on you numerous times?
What I am really trying to understand is whether or not sometimes people need to open up their eyes and recognize that adultery occurs so bad marriages can end. The fact that your wife eventually left you seems to support that idea. I’m not saying that judgmentally. I really don’t know one way or the other. I am just trying to udnerstand.
Please answer these two questions: 1) Why did you stay and 2) In hindsight do you believe it was God’s will for you stay and why or why not?
I stayed for a couple of reasons. First, I believed that forgiveness could fix the problem. Sometimes, though, forgiveness is not enough. Second, I think I was afraid of watching my marriage end. Enternalizing the pain of unfaithfulness was easier than dealing with a divorce.
God’s will was for us to remain faithful to our covenant obligations to one another. God allows divorced to protect people who are victims of broken covenants. Things that break a covenant are adultery, abandonment, and an environment of abuse. When the covenant has been broken, divorce protects the victim.
The problem in Jesus’ day is that there were Jews who were using divorce to break their covenant – ‘no fault divorces.’ This is what Jesus said was wrong.
Was it God’s will for me to stay? I think it was God’s will for me to have been more proactive in seeking help. I don’t think that God every requires divorce, though for someone who is being abused in a broken covenant relationship, they need to lay down strict boundaries which may in the end require divorce. But of someone cheats on their spouse once and is truly repentent and if forgiveness could truly mend the broken covenant, then I believe that is the better way to go.
Thanks for sharing R
I appreciate your insight. I am just wondering if there really is a definitive “victim” in any marriage though. I find adultery to be the fault of both spouses irregardless of the circumstances. If that is the case aren’t both spouses victims of each other? And if that is the case that would once again bring me back around to the belief that many marriages were never ordained by God and therefore adultery is used to destroy those marriages.
The Bible says, “what God has joined together” let no man put assunder. The key to this scripture is that it has to have been put together by God.
What do you say this?
Anavah:
I totally disagree that adultery is the fault of both parties. I can’t imagine what the rationale could be behind that belief. Some folks are just “doggish”, and will cheat because that is part of their character. Society has always blamed women when men stray, saying that they were negligent in the bedroom, did not keep up their appearance, etc. Well, to be blunt, I was ready, willing, and able, have always enjoyed our sex life, was in excellent physical shape and attractive and attentive to my appearance in every way. Yet, my husband was still a cheater, a viewer of pornography, and I had to ask for sex and have him reject me. Some folks wondered how Halle Berry’s husband could have been a world-class cheater being married to one of the most beautiful women in the world. The answer is it is all about the person’s character and maturity or lack thereof.
When you get married, you promise to forsake all others. In this perverse world, somebody is always hitting on you if you look half-way decent, but you are supposed to remember that you have a covenant with God and with your spouse and say no. When I found out after my divorce that my ex had been cheating throughout, I knew it wasn’t about me. I’m glad I escaped.
Let us first understand that God hates divorce. Because divorce is permissible in the case of adultery do not say that God condones it and has agreed to it. The Lord says except in the case of adultery a writ of divorce is given. He was not agreeing to the divorce. He has submitted Himself to His own Word and The Word s etched in Stone. It was because of the “hardness of one’s heart”. That goes for all of us when we have found out that our spouse has cheated on us with someone else. There is bitterness, anger, hatred, unforgiveness hurt, pain and others that cause the hardness of our hearts and the Lord knows that and sees those things in us. We know how divorce tears a family apart and what the children are experiencing when there are children from the union. It takas a toll on us all. So, because of the hardness of our hearts Moses gave a writ of divorcement and we still do it today. These things were occurring before our Lord manifest on the earth so it was not just when He was on the earth. Just like people do today and get divorce for various reasons they got divorce in Israel for many reasons other than adultery. Only death truly dissolves the marriage relationship. The Bible sas only is a woman truly free is when the husband dies. Some people believe and have said that one should go back to the spouse they were married to. God forgives us for our mistakes and errors and sin and we should receive His forgiveness and move on. I believe He stills look beyond our faults and see oun need. While we were yet sinners, The Christ died for the ungodly. And we should forgive the one who hurt us and cheated on us. Forgiveness is also BIG with God. Afterall, He sent His Son to die for all mankind that He forgives us our sin. And if we have somehting against our brother, we should leave our gift at the altar and go find our brother and forgive him. We have got to get healing through all of this and all of so many other things that have affected our lives. Remember, the Bible teaches, that we were like as they were once. Gentiles, without God in our life. We have come into the knowledge of some things concerning God that we did not know or even care about at one time. Why is it that one think that our relationship is not right because we were not a born again Christian. Many marriages were and still are said and performed before God. Many last for many years and until death do us part. Proverbs 18:22 says the he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Also, I want to say that God is Holy and He commands us to be the same. He will never use sin to dissolve a marriage whether we were saved or unsaved, born again or not born again. In James 1 it says He will not be tempted by evil and neither will He attempt us by evil and that we are taken away by our own lusts. In the Gospels He taught that sin is first conceived in the heart and it is continually taught in the epistles. In times past a man chose a woman and this being in Israel whether God led them to each other or not. And in the book of the law there was various reasons a man could choose a woman if she appealed to him and if he saw her and liked her even if she was caught in captivity after a battle. Studying of the OT as it is still a school master and the Lord is still The Ancient of Days. I could elaborate more on some things but it would take up too much here.
Also on the one flesh I believe that God was joining man and woman back together. I don’t believe He was showing us that we probably not married to the right person. Forgive me if I am not saying that correctly. Again, NT teaches us 1Cor.616 – Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For the two He says shall be one flesh.
We have to remember that in the beginning as the Lord spoke they were created male and female. not two but one flesh. Adam was one with woman already on the inside of him. When the Lord took of his one rib and made woman the Lord brought woman to the man and said what God has joined together let no man tear asunder. Therefore a man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. They were back to where He began with the man Adam in the first place. One flesh! No longer two but one. The man said of the woman bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. God continued to call them Adam. After the fall, we see the man calls the woman Eve, mother of all living. Now, back to NT which tells us that if we could truly understand this relationship, which is so much more embedded in the second Adam, our Lord Jesus The Christ. And also, as the brother said making a vow is important to God. He in OT and as well as NT is adamant about vows and keeping them as well as accountability and responsibility.
I appreciate your feedback Glynda and I agree that God does not “use” sin. However, He does allow it. He allowed Judas Iscariot to betray Jesus. He allowed the Egyptians to oprress the Israelites for hundreds of years. He allowed Moses to murder the Egyptian so that Moses would leave egypt and learn how to tend sheep which was his true calling – tending the sheep which were God’s people.
I find sin and wickedness to be very useful throughout the Bible. I believe that sin is also allowed so that the consequences of that sin can bring us to true repentance and get us back on the course of our true destiny. This is because we so often get out of a place of hearing God’s clear instructions to us. He tries to guide us on a less painful road, but we do not allow him and that is why God allows us to fulfill the lust of our flesh and reap the consequences. Then He gets our attention and can give us the guidance we need. What the devil meant for evil, God turns it around for good.
So yes, I still believe that adultery is used to dissolove ungodly covenants, in some, not all but some, marriages when it occurs.
Thanks again for your feedback!
Kay,
I can certainly understand your passionate response, you being a woman that has suffered the pain of an adulterous affair.
However, my rationale is based on 3 factors: 1) an understanding of how the “spirit of adultery” operates, 2) years worth of counseling experience with adulterers and their spouses, and 3) my own personal experiences.
First and foremost it is about an understanding of the spirit of adultery. You have to understand that I do not analyze sexual sin in the same way that most people do. Because of my own long battle with sexual sin, God was able to teach me how to look at it beyond the mere physical act and to see what happens in the spirit realm when sexual sin takes place. Those are the revelations that I share in my book that I frequently mention.
Unfortunately that is not how most people analyze sexual sin and that is why so many people cannot get delivered. Sexual sin begins in the spirit realm and that is where I look to analyze a situation.
There are two sexual perversion spirits that cause infidelity in marriage; these are the spirit of adultery and the spirit of sexual lust. The spirit of adultery never operates based on a lack of sexual fulfillment in the marriage. You can be the hottest babycakes on the block, that will not stop your spouse from committing adultery. Adultery takes advantage of needs that are not being fulfilled and unhealed spiritual wounds. The spirit of lust on the other hand is able to take over a person who is not submitted to God or who is lacking discipline and self-control.
Because the spirit of adultery operates the way that it does, the fault lies with both spouses when infidelity occurs at the hand of this spirit. Even the spouse that did not commit adultery has to take accountability because one of the most important elements of marriage is that the husband and wife become instruments of healing for one another. It is each spouses responsibility to see the spiritual and emotional needs and sicknesses of the other and put themselves on the altar for their spouses deliverance. If I talk to someone who has a spouse that has committed adultery and find out that they prayed for hours everyday over their spouse, that they fasted and consecrated weekly for their spouse, they sought the Lord at every argument and sign of weakness without fail, that they walked in ultimate humility before their spouse, never went to bed angry and consistently lived an upright and Godly life bearing the fruit of the Spirit, and I find out that these things were done consistently for years, then I will say, “You had no fault in this.
The above seldom, if ever, happens! Is that a lot to ask of a person? It sure is, and yet that is the mandate that God puts on us. It is what we sign up for when we walk down to that altar and say “I do”. Yes, there are those that just have a doggish nature (the spirit of sexual lust operating in them) and will never change. There are those rare instances when a spouse does everything that they are supposed to do as listed above and their spouse still commits infidelity. In those cases, I believe that this is a marriage that was never joined together by God! Unfortunately, that happens sometimes, but to my understanding that would still make both spouses responsible. Why? Because “my sheep know my voice and the voice of a stranger they will not follow.” A sheep is submissive and obedient and we have a responsibility to be sheep and follow the voice of the Lord. When we go our own way and marry who we want to, we suffer the consequences.
And…ONE OF THE MOST OVERLOOKED CAUSES OF ADULTERY is having premarital sex with your soon to be husband or wife. That opens the door wide and most couples never properly cleanse themselves after this takes place. This is certainly the fault of both spouses! I have never personally counseled with any adulterous person or spouse that did not engage in premarital sex – fornication – with their spouse.
I will not even get into the counseling I’ve done and what I’ve learned from that or my personal experiences because the above statements are support enough for my belief. Even in the best case scenario with one spouse being absolutely perfect, they are still at fault for not hearing God on His choice for spouse. This once again brings me back to the belief that God allows adultery to destroy the ungodly covenant of those that should have never gotten married.
Greetings,
I am a 50 year old divorced woman and have been so since 2001. My pastor was preaching on “divorce”. From what I understand, he said that a divorced person is forbidden to re-marry and if they do, that have committed adultery.
In my case, when I divorced my husband it was because he was adulteress – he had slept with other women. I had never in my whole 23 years of being married to him slept with another man or became involved with another man in any way. I always feared God and tried to stay in His will. Even though early in my marriage I realized that I had made a big mistake and should have listened to my mother. I was a young virgin; he was a bit older than me and showed me a life of sexuality before marriage. I actually marriage him for the wrong reasons and he did so the same. I did eventually love him a lot, but he never really loved me the same. I was hardly ever first in his life. His mother and son always came before me. Many times I was left alone and miserable. We eventually had 3 children and he still never changed for the better. Several times he was unfaithful and running with other women. One day he confessed to it because he was afraid he might have contracted something. For the rest of our marriage we used “condoms” during intercourse. I began to love him less and lose interest in him. I still believed that he was still cutting out and later on I divorced him. Mostly because I did not feel it fair to continue being married under such circumstances and that I should not jeopardize my health for a bad marriage.
As of today, I am blessed to be 100% healthy butI do not date, simply because all men I have met since then were not up to my standards (just God fearing humans) and full of deceit.
I am now confused, I know my God as a merciful and forgiving God. He is a God of another chance. Should I even bother to date again to re-marry or am I just left alone because I am now a “forbidden woman” because of a mistake I made a long time ago – getting married to the wrong person.
Signed
Spiritually Confused
Carol,
I have some very insightful scriptures that I think will help you alot. Let’s just see what the other bloggers respond to you over the weekend, if anything. Check back on Monday for my comment, some Biblical TRUTH that will set you free! Have a great weekend!
Hi Carol,
I hope you had a great weekend. I did! As promised, I am back to share with you some Biblical truth that I hope will liberate you.
Here is the scripture that is being used to try and keep you in bondage to a single life:
1 Cor 7:10-11 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
However, every scripture needs to be taken in context with the fullness of the measure of all scripture. Let’s look at this scripture in Mat 5:31-32. Remember, in the above scripture Paul said that this was a command from “The Lord”. He was referring to Jesus. The Father was referred to as “God”. Therefore Paul was reiterating what Jesus had taught in the Gospels. Jesus said:
31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
Your husband committed adultery and therefore you are clearly exonerated from any gulity that would otherwise be associated with divorcing him!
I believe that the scripure is very clear on this point: if a person divorces for any reason other than sexual immorality, God considers them still to be in legal covenant with their spouse until death. Therefore, if such a person marries again they are in sin. Paul exteneded an additional exception to this command by saying that if an unbelieving spouse left a believing spouse, then the believer was exonerated in such a case. Paul’s exception is unfortunately a matter of interpretation since he clearly said that he was speaking of himself and not God.
However, in your case Carol, there is no question about it, nor is there any doubt in my mind that you are not guilty before the Lord. The scripture makes that very clear. You are free to marry again if you choose to.
I just hope that you will seek the Lord to know whether or not that is His WIILL for you. Don’t just marry because you are lonely or because you want a second chance. Only do it if it is your destiny in the Kingdom to do so.
I hope this helps you. 🙂
Whoah … adultery is always the fault of both married partners? I couldn’t disagree more. Do you blame God for people who don’t respond to his love and grace? God placed Adam and Eve in a perfect environment with a perfect relationship with HIm, and they STILL sinned against him. Was it God’s fault? Could He have done more?
Too many people have used their spouses adultery to keep from dealing with their own issues. That’s a mistake. But to say that the spouse who was betrayed was somehow at fault only adds unnecessary and undeserved guilt to the feeling of betrayal. Even if my spouse wasn’t perfect, if I committed adultery I am responsible for my actions.
Hi Rick,
Thanks for your comment. I already addressed your veiwpoint in comment #9 so I won’t be redundant. I will say this though, I never said it was God’s fault! I said it was the fault of both people involved.
No one is innocent, there is none righteous, no not even one. Yes, the adulterer is ABSOLUTELY RESPONSIBLE for his or her actions, but the other spouse is just as responsible for their actions, or lack there of. Marriage is a partnership. I don’t believe any marriage just falls apart if even at least one spouse is doing everything they are supposed…unless the marriage was never God’s will in the first place.
Like I have siad before, that only further strengthens my belief that adultery is often allowed so that ungodly covenants can be legally dissolved.
Thanks 🙂
Actually, what I meant was that God was the perfect ‘partner’ in the Garden of Eden, yet Adam and Eve still sinned. Their sin was entirely their fault and not God’s. In the same way, one person can be a good and decent spouse (though admittedly no one is perfect), and the other person can still commit adultery. The reason for their sin could be simply rebellion or the result of things that happened in their past that had nothing to do with their spouse.
There’s no such thing as a marriage that isn’t God’s will. God may not want two people to marry, but once they do it’s God’s will that they stay together. God would never allow adultery just to bring the marriage to an end.
The only type of ungodly covenant is one where one or both parties are denying the covenant through adultery, abandonment, or abuse. If they aren’t doing these things, then the covenant is godly and it should not end.
I don’t mean to be confrontational, but I confess that I don’t understand your logic here.
Wow, this is a great discussion. I agree totally that divorce is not automatic when someone doesn’t keep their matrimonial covenant. When I divorced my first wife because of abandonment, God spoke to me in a powerful way regarding divorce.
Life is made of choices and as people we all have to live with the choices we make. Sometimes our mistakes can be easily corrected. Sometimes, however, it takes a bit longer.
If you choose a spouse that isn’t as compatible as you would like, you don’t throw the baby out with the bath water! Please understand that compatibility does not determine success in marriage. Divorce courts around this nation are full of couples who like to do the same things and can finish each other’s sentences!
The only thing that can truly guarantee success in Christian marriage is mutual consecration–to each other and to God. Through consecration (prayer and fasting), you discipline and allow yourself to be changed into Christ’s image, while petitioning God to act in transforming the things about your spouse that are (1) not pleasing in His sight and (2) not pleasing in your sight. When both spouses commit to this type of action, God protects your union and makes the necessary changes to ensure that the two submitted vessels in covenant can experience all the joy and pleasure that He ordained for covenant partners to enjoy. And like anything in the Kingdom of God, it is a process to attain unto that “high calling,” so be certain to make your “calling and election” sure!
Wow that is great insight Married and Anonymous. I think that is the best insight I have read concerning marriage on this blog!
No it is not required, especially since most of the times both spouses are at fault. Reconciliation should be at least considered and attempted before divorce even after adultery.
And man that compatability statement was right on! Like I always say, “Christ is compatible with Christ”. Therefore, if two people allow themselves to be conformed completely to His image, there is no way that they can remain incompatible!!!
Rick,
“There’s no such thing as a marriage that isn’t God’s will. ” Hmmm, that is quite a statement. I would have to strongly, strongly disagree with that. What about Samson and his Philistine wife? What about Esau and his heathen wives? What about Solomon and his heathen wife?
I know my comment about God allowing adultery to dissovle undestined marriages is radical, but if you look at the History of the Bible, you will see that God often times allowed people to sin for the bringing to pass of His ultimate will. Like in the famous case of Joseph’s brothers throwing him into the pit.
I do believe that in most marriages, whether they were God’s perfect union or not, that He would rather them stay married. I believe in some instances though that one particular spouse truly has an important call and destiny that God has invested His anointing and training into them for that calling, and that if the person’s spouse is a hinderance, he will orchestrate the spouse’s removal. I believe in his mercy, He’d much rather do this through the person’s own sin and judgement than through their death, which you do see in the Bible sometimes (God allowing a hindering spouse to die).
And may I iterate again, as I said earlier, no matter how decent a spouse is, one of the most overlooked causes of adultery is the two people committing fornication before they marry!!! That is certainly the fault of them both and that allows the spirit of adultery to easily enter into a marriage.
By the way , I appreciate the controversy!!! 😉
We have to be careful that we don’t take a ‘flat’ approach to scripture. IOW, scripture is revelation that unfolded over time and we have to remember where Samson and Solomon are located in ‘salvation history.’ The book of Ezra ends with God commanding the Israelite priests to divorce their wives and abandon their children because they were not Israelite. Yet Paul commands a believer to remain with an unbelieving spouse if the unbeliever is willing. Was Paul unaware of what God said to Ezra? Hardly. But the Israelite priests were at a different point in history than Paul. What about Hosea?
While there are people who marry against the will of God, that doesn’t mean that it is now God’s will for them to divorce. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Adultery does not get them back on track with God’s will by making it possible for them to now divorce.
God is bigger than that.
I suspect that God would rather change a spouse than remove him/her. If that spouse refuses to change, then God can use the faithfulness of the godly partner for His glory. God is bigger than our mistakes. That’s grace and sovereignty at work.
I just don’t think we can place a blanket of blame on all those who have been betrayed or abandoned or abused by spouse. God can and does use people who are divorced because a spouse committed adultery, but I think its dangerous to say that God in some way wanted the adultery to happen so that the innocent person could be released from their obligations.
Does that make sense?
Touche on Paul’s mandate that an unbelieving spouse and believing spouse remain together, however let’s remember that this was Paul’s own opinion:
“12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe… (1 Cor 7:12)”
I do believe it was a wise suggestion, but he was sure to leave room for the Holy Spirit to lead them otherwise if they felt so led. I think that is important to remember that and it was wise of Paul to say it that way, keeping in mind that his knowledge of marriage was only by observation and divine revelation. He had no personal experience.
Did I say God “wanted” the adultery to take place. NOT SO. I said He allows it and uses what the devil meant for evil and turns it around for good. Is HE sovereign or is he not?
David says it this way when his sin brought about God’s correction:
“67Before I was afflicted I went astray: but now have I kept thy word.
71It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes. ”
He does chasten those whom he loves and gets us back on the right path!
We may be talking past each other here. In his sovereignty he can use someone who is in a less than ideal marriage. Likewise, he can use those who have been divorced. And he can and does use all these things to make us more like Christ.
I just don’t think it’s fair to make those who have suffered through the betrayal of a spouse to somehow take responsibility for that betrayal. Even if they weren’t the perfect spouse, the other person made decisions that shouldn’t have been made.
You are very passionate on this point. Were you a “victim”?
Please note that I did state that on rare occasions there may be only one spouse that is at fault. But I don’t believe this is usually the case Rick.
I am not insinuating however that the non-cheating spouse is totally to blame. I just would that both spouses take accountability for the problems in the marriage that led to adultery: even if the only issue is that it was just a marriage birthed out of choice as opposed to divine destination, or that they had sex before marriage and did not properly cleanse themselves to prevent that spirit of perversion from following them into their marriage.
I just don’t see anyone as an innocent victim, not at an accountable age anyway. But maybe I am being too tough. I have a prophetic mantle on my life. The prophetic mantle can make one harsh sometimes because God is Harsh with them. 😉
I think for the most part we agree Rick. But seriously though, did you or someone you love suffer the adultery of a spouse?
I’m passionate for ‘the least of these’ whoever that may be …
Here, here Rick.
I appreciate your spirit and your passion. I really do. 🙂
Anavah –
In an earlier post you state, “I find adultery to be the fault of both spouses irregardless of the circumstances”.
What gives you the authority to say this? Adultery is an act committed by ONE person by her/his own free will. One partner makes a choice to violate the marriage covenant. The adulterer does not seek permission from the other partner to commit adultery. Adultery like domestic abuse, rape, and neglect is an act of one.
If one partner is not getting what s/he wants in the sexual relationship, then it is up to that person to ask for it. The fault lies only with the person who fails to ask and fails to think before acting out sexually outside of marriage.
Your response appears to be one of naïveté and inexperience.
voice of Reason,
My comment is actually based on more experience than I can go into right now. As I said to you in your comment to me on the “Why Can’t I enjoy my Marital Sex Life” post, please read my comments more carefully. If you read through more of the comments and responses on this adultery post, you will have a clearer understanding of why I stand on this position.
That does not of course mean you will agree and you don’t have to. This is a blog, it is MY blog and that gives me the right to state me opinions and beliefs about things…
… and it also gives you the right to respond accordingly. Some of my posts are a matter of scriptural fact, others are a matter of opinion, while others still are a synopsis of my own experiences. This one in particular is just my own opinion based on my experiences as an adulteress and a marriage and sex counselor.
Your opinion counts too, so thanks for sharing. 🙂
isn’t it funny what we all “believe”?
and we do it all without “proof”
when one spouse ignores the pleadings of the other, because they think they’re right or that the other is wrong, the die has been cast for disaster
and I’ve seen that happen over and over again
marriage is a lifetime commitment,(matt 19)
regardless of what others say,
God does not endorse a divorce
and we can “edit” the scriptures to make them say whatever we want them to say,,,
at least that’s what I see happening anymore,,
it’s convenient,,,
but, is it “rightly dividing the word of truth?”